hi amy, it has been years,please say hello to your mom ,dad,brother. I had four children if you remember,brian,danielle,chris,heather. It was a very hectic time,but the best of times in retrospect. I would love to live them over with the wisdom of time. It sounds as if you have an open always learning to work out problems that inevidable arise. It is so hard to believe you have three little darlings,how wonderful for you and your mom must be overjoyed,what a lucky grandma. yOU may need to keep reminding yourself that perfect is not the best goal,warmth and kindness to those nearest you is so much more important. I remember trying to be all for all just leaves you and that wonderful family with less and that is just not good enough. Make your life FUN sometimes we stress the details when our children and husband just want us in the moment. you are doing great! all the best mrs c